New ideas, and hope for the future:
Narrative Therapy: first words, ideas, images–
What matters is that you stay curious, longer than you think you need to. Seeing problems, not as inside people, but in context, as having effects on people’s lives. Asking: what is getting in the way of your living the life you want to.
Narrative therapy broadens awareness from the dominant discourse, as assigned by culture, gender, race, class– to something far more interesting. Narrative therapy brings tools for multicultural awareness, from within the client, through simply asking questions around what matters most to them. “What do you mean by that?” This opens up possibilities for people’s lives and for the world. The hope is there.
If you have come here to help me,
you are wasting our time.
If you have come here because your liberation is bound up with mine,
then let us work together.
–Lilla Watson, Aboriginal activist, Australia
When we ask questions that bring forth people’s passion, that is a way of making meaning. Meaning making is how we make meaning of our life, our existence. It is about our evolution as a species, and seeing there are other possibilities for how to be as a human. It has a collaborative aspect as well as individual: the conversations we share will bring people hundreds of miles away into meaning.
In order to engage in Narrative Therapy, we position ourselves as a learner, with a certain technical skill. We stay open, curious, we don’t worry about figuring it out.
We see clients as also having a knowing, a commitment to something, a passion.
What we bring to the conversation, is not knowing what all the possiiblities are, and a sense that the food is in the field. During the Depression, when the financial system had collapsed, food went rotting in the field because people’s minds were focused on the monetary system. The message: the food’s in the field. Whatever is going on, there are inner resources beyond what we know– a sense of wholeness and possibility.
In the process, it doesn’t matter if you get it right. It morphs and changes and you want to stay open to it.
Out of this, there are sparkling moments, which stand outside of what anyone could expect would come next.
This is Zen– at least in the way which is alive and has meaning for me.
When I am working with our students, when I am within that process, or sitting with myself,
“it doesn’t matter if you get it right. It morphs and changes and you want to stay open to it.”
Without any expectation, without any agenda. Beginner’s mind.
A psychology which resonates with my own felt sense of what it means to be human. I feel like I walked into a gold mine, even though there is just a glint in the dust.